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Review: Them by Ben Sasse

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Them: Why We Hate Each Other and How to Heal
Ben Sasse
St. Martin’s Press
October 16, 2018

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About THEM

Something is wrong. We all know it.

American life expectancy is declining for a third straight year. Birth rates are dropping. Nearly half of us think the other political party isn’t just wrong; they’re evil. We’re the richest country in history, but we’ve never been more pessimistic. What’s causing the despair?

In Them, bestselling author and U.S. Senator Ben Sasse argues that, contrary to conventional wisdom, our crisis isn’t really about politics. It’s that we’re so lonely we can’t see straight—and it bubbles out as anger. 

Local communities are collapsing. Across the nation, little leagues are disappearing, Rotary clubs are dwindling, and in all likelihood, we don’t know the neighbor two doors down. Work isn’t what we’d hoped: less certainty, few lifelong coworkers, shallow purpose. Stable families and enduring friendships—life’s fundamental pillars—are in statistical freefall. 

As traditional tribes of place evaporate, we rally against common enemies so we can feel part of on a team. No institutions command widespread public trust, enabling foreign intelligence agencies to use technology to pick the scabs on our toxic divisions. We’re in danger of half of us believing different facts than the other half, and the digital revolution throws gas on the fire. 

There’s a path forward—but reversing our decline requires something radical: a rediscovery of real places and real human-to-human relationships. Even as technology nudges us to become rootless, Sasse shows how only a recovery of rootedness can heal our lonely souls.

America wants you to be happy, but more urgently, America needs you to love your neighbor. Fixing what’s wrong with the country depends on you rebuilding right where you’re planted.

My Review

I think I heard about THEM on a news program where the author, Senator Ben Sasse, was interviewed, and the concept of the book really struck a chord with me. I’m definitely more of a peacemaker type of personality, so I don’t like conflict. It tends to make our current political climate a bit scary to me. Lots of people (myself included) have really strong feelings about issues, and that can make for volatile and stressful family get-togethers. (One time, after trying unsuccessfully several times to end a political debate between two family members, I literally changed the subject and shouted over them, telling a story about a girl scout trip I took with my daughter. I just kept shouting until everyone else stopped talking. It was very rude and embarrassing and also apparently totally necessary.)

At any rate, I was really curious what Sasse would have to say about how to move toward more civil exchanges with people and how to maintain relationships across political divides. He said a lot of smart things– some just about the evolution of the culture and the changes to communities that technology has brought. I agreed with his synopsis of the way communities are not as deeply connected now as people use phones and tablets for everything from social media to movies and TV.

There were some things I didn’t agree with. I believe in civil discourse, so I agreed that we need dialogue and to be able to talk with people who have different viewpoints than we do. But it’s not always safe to do that. Sometimes, when it’s not safe, it’s better to suspend those conversations. I felt like he wasn’t very realistic about that.

I did like a lot of what he had to say, though. There were no easy solutions. A lot of it comes down to crafting a diverse community for yourself, one that includes a variety of political ideas. The idea is that this helps you remember that good people belong to both political parties. We both want the same things: a thriving democracy that allows us and our children to live healthy, happy lives, with an optimistic financial future. But we often differ on how to get to that result and what the government’s role should be in getting us there.

I recommend THEM for readers who are frustrated with politics. It’s one of those books I think everyone should read, regardless of your party affiliation. It’s less about his ideology and more about our culture and why we’ve become so polarized in political views and what to do about it.

Content Notes

Recommended for Ages 15 up.

Representation
This book is written by a Conservative Republican Senator.

Profanity/Crude Language Content
Mild profanity used twice or so.

Romance/Sexual Content
None.

Spiritual Content
Sasse mentions church attendance on Sunday.

Violent Content
Some references to a riot on a college campus.

Drug Content 
None.

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Review and Blog Tour: Shame Off You by Denise Pass

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Shame Off You: From Hiding to Healing
Denise Pass
Abingdon Press
Published August 21, 2018

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About Shame Off You: From Hiding to Healing

Shame is an assault on the core of who we are. It assassinates our character, minimizes our worth, and dashes our hope. Like Adam and Eve, we often hide shame, but hiding never heals it. Left unattended, shame can develop into a crippling reality that paralyzes us. Like an infectious disease, shame impacts everyone . . . but not all shame is bad. Shame can either be an oppressive and powerful tool of worldly condemnation or a source of conviction that God uses to bring his people back to himself. Having the discernment to know the difference and recognize shame in its many forms can change the course of one’s life.

In a transparently honest style, Pass shares of her experience dealing with shame after learning that her former husband was a sexual offender. Having lived through the aftermath, she leads you into God’s Word where you will see for yourself that God is bigger than your pain, shame, mistakes, and limitations.

Shame Off You shares how freedom can be found in choosing to break the cycle of shame by learning from the past, developing healthy thinking patterns, silencing lies, and overcoming the traps of vanity and other people’s opinions.

My Review

This book gave me so many things to think about. It really called into focus the way I react to certain things and has helped me start to break down why I react that way and how to respond differently or break the cycle of shame.

The author is pretty transparent about some difficult things she has been through, and that makes so much of what she says accessible and real because you know she’s been through those big emotions herself. She’s also really funny. I liked that sometimes even when talking about difficult things, she’d say them in a funny way to lighten things up.

SHAME OFF YOU is a very spiritual book. I don’t think you could read the book and enjoy it without embracing her spiritual point-of-view. It’s really meant to guide people within Christian faith toward releasing shame and breaking the cycle of shaming others.

I’m also not sure how accessible the book would be to teen readers. The writing is a little bit dense, but the concepts really apply to any age, and the topic is a great one for teen readers. I wonder if the author would consider doing a youth edition at some point.

On the whole, I’m so glad I read SHAME OFF YOU. I want to go back and highlight some passages that I want to remember and be able to revisit later. I think it will be a big help to me as I continue to think about way shame impacts me and others in my life.

Content Notes

Recommended for Ages 14 up.

Representation
None.

Profanity/Crude Language Content
None.

Romance/Sexual Content
The author briefly discusses discovering that her husband sexually abused their child. No explicit details given.

Spiritual Content
This is in every way a Christian book. Quotes from scriptures, prayers and devotionals open and close each chapter.

Violent Content
None.

Drug Content
None.

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Review: Dreamland (YA Edition) by Sam Quinones

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Dreamland: The True Tale of America’s Opiate Epidemic (YA Edition)
Sam Quinones
Bloomsbury YA
Published July 16, 2019

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About Dreamland (YA Edition)

As an adult book, Sam Quinones’s Dreamland took the world by storm, winning the NBCC Award for General Nonfiction and hitting at least a dozen Best Book of the Year lists. Now, adapted for the first time for a young adult audience, this compelling reporting explains the roots of the current opiate crisis. 

In 1929, in the blue-collar city of Portsmouth, Ohio, a company built a swimming pool the size of a football field; named Dreamland, it became the vital center of the community. Now, addiction has devastated Portsmouth, as it has hundreds of small rural towns and suburbs across America. How that happened is the riveting story of Dreamland. Quinones explains how the rise of the prescription drug OxyContin, a miraculous and extremely addictive painkiller pushed by pharmaceutical companies, paralleled the massive influx of black tar heroin–cheap, potent, and originating from one small county on Mexico’s west coast, independent of any drug cartel.

Introducing a memorable cast of characters–pharmaceutical pioneers, young Mexican entrepreneurs, narcotics investigators, survivors, teens, and parents–Dreamland is a revelatory account of the massive threat facing America and its heartland.

My Review

If you’re looking for a book that explains how the opiate epidemic started and why it became such a pervasive problem, DREAMLAND is the right book. The author explores the issue from all sides, from the actions of a pharmaceutical company to pill mill doctors to some stories of people who became addicted or saw opportunities to capitalize on the addictions of others.

As I read, each new chapter revealed more and more disturbing truths. So many failures at so many levels allowed this problem to take hold and explode across communities across the country.

DREAMLAND doesn’t link to this, but I recently saw a news report from a Washington Post reporter who was part of an effort to publish a database showing how many prescription pain pills were distributed to different counties in the US. I looked up my own county and was pretty much floored by the total number. I suppose I should have been less surprised since Quinones does point out in DREAMLAND that 9 of 10 of the top prescribing counties in the US during the peak of the pill mill problem were counties in Florida.

I definitely recommend DREAMLAND to anyone who wants a deeper understanding of how we got here and why the opioid epidemic happened in the first place.

Content Notes

Recommended for Ages 14 up.

Profanity/Crude Language Content
Strong profanity used infrequently

Romance/Sexual Content
None.

Spiritual Content
Quinones follows a church-based addiction recovery program.

Violent Content
None.

Drug Content
Obviously this book contains references to drug abuse. It doesn’t contain graphic scenes showing characters abusing drugs, but gives a lot of information about how drugs were trafficked. One person Quinones describes was raised by an alcoholic, abusive father.

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Review: For Such a Time as This by Sharon Risher with Sherri Wood Emmons

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For Such a Time as This
Sharon Risher with Sherri Wood Emmons
Chalice Press
Published June 11, 2019

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The instant her phone rang, Reverend Sharon Risher sensed something was horribly wrong. Something had happened at Emanuel AME Church, the church of her youth in Charleston, South Carolina, and she knew her mother was likely in the church at Bible study. Even before she heard the news, her chaplain’s instinct told her the awful truth: her mother was dead, along with two cousins. What she couldn’t imagine was that they had been murdered by a white supremacist.

Plunged into the depths of mourning and anger and shock, Sharon could have wallowed in the pain. Instead, she chose the path of forgiveness and hope – eventually forgiving the convicted killer for his crime. In this powerful memoir of faith, family, and loss, Sharon begins the story with her mother, Ethel Lee Lance, seeking refuge in the church from poverty and scorn and raising her family despite unfathomable violence that rattled Sharon to her core years later; how Sharon overcame her own struggles and answered the call to ministry; and how, in the loss of her dear mother,

Sharon has become a nationally known speaker as she shares her raw, riveting, story of losing loved ones to gun violence and racism. Sharon’s story is a story of transformation: How an anonymous hospital chaplain was thrust into the national spotlight, joining survivors of other gun-related horrors as reluctant speakers for a heartbroken social-justice movement. As she recounts her grief and the struggle to forgive the killer, Risher learns to trust God’s timing and lean on God’s loving presence to guide her steps.

Where her faith journey leads her is surprising and inspiring, as she finds a renewed purpose to her life in the company of other survivors. Risher has been interviewed by Time Magazine, Marie-Claire, Essence, Guardian-BCC Radio, CNN, and other media sources. She regularly shares her story on American college campuses and racial-reconciliation events. “To Forgive a Killer,” her essay as told to Abigail Pesta published in Notre Dame Magazine, won the 2018 Front Page Award for Essay published in a Magazine, awarded by the Newswomen’s Club of New York .

My Review

When I heard about FOR SUCH A TIME AS THIS, I knew I needed to read it. I remember hearing about the shooting in Charleston and feeling deeply disturbed at the boldness and actions of the killer. Rev. Risher tells the story of her family and her journey through grief toward healing with courage and very straight talk. This isn’t a flowery, feel-good story. It’s raw and real, full of struggle, humanity, and faith.

Risher wades into political waters as she describes her personal evolution into an advocate for sensible gun laws and for racial equality in the United States. Hearing her perspective on why she travels the country speaking and how she developed her message moved me, too. It made me think about the way I have conversations with people.

She suggests beginning with a common ground. What is something that both parties agree on? Find that common ground and then build on it. I’m hoping to put this into practice in my own life as I have conversations about social issues with people I care about.

Risher’s frank discussion of racism in America left me with chills. Her calls to action to learn to have difficult conversations, to keep talking about racial issues even when we’re uncomfortable, stick with me even after the pages of the book are closed. I agree with her, and I want to find appropriate ways to be part of those conversations, too.

All in all, I think FOR SUCH A TIME AS THIS is a must-read for anyone in America. This shooting happened here, perpetrated by a man with abhorrent ideas, ones shared by too many other people. After an event like that, I find myself wondering what to do, or how to respond. I think this book does a lot toward equipping people to do those very things.

Content Notes

Recommended for Ages 14 up.

Representation
Sharon Risher’s mother, two cousins, and a childhood friend, who are all black, were killed by a white supremacist at their church in Charleston.

Profanity/Crude Language Content
Strong profanity used near a dozen times throughout the book.

Romance/Sexual Content
Brief recollection of falling in love and getting married.

Spiritual Content
Risher herself is a chaplain and calls on her faith to help herself and others through deep grief and anger.

Violent Content
Some brief descriptions of the mass shooting at the AME church in Charleston.

Drug Content
Simon and his friends drink alcohol, which is legal at eighteen in Australia.

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Review: I am Malala by Malala Yousafzai

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I am Malala: The Story of the Girl Who Stood Up for Education and Was Shot by the Taliban
Malala Yousafzai
with Christina Lamb
Little, Brown and Company
Published on October 8, 2013

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About I am Malala

I come from a country that was created at midnight. When I almost died it was just after midday.

When the Taliban took control of the Swat Valley in Pakistan, one girl spoke out. Malala Yousafzai refused to be silenced and fought for her right to an education.

On Tuesday, October 9, 2012, when she was fifteen, she almost paid the ultimate price. She was shot in the head at point-blank range while riding the bus home from school, and few expected her to survive.

Instead, Malala’s miraculous recovery has taken her on an extraordinary journey from a remote valley in northern Pakistan to the halls of the United Nations in New York. At sixteen, she has become a global symbol of peaceful protest and the youngest-ever Nobel Peace Prize laureate.

I Am Malala is the remarkable tale of a family uprooted by global terrorism, of the fight for girls’ education, of a father who, himself a school owner, championed and encouraged his daughter to write and attend school, and of brave parents who have a fierce love for their daughter in a society that prizes sons.

My Review

I’ve been curious about this book for the longest time, and finally I ordered an audiobook copy (I think I saw it on one of Audible’s most recommended books lists or something) and listened to it.

Before reading I Am Malala I hadn’t realized how active she was in speaking out about girls being allowed an education and how she and her family risked so much in order to continue educating young women in Swat in Pakistan.

The story not only gives a great sense of the political and social atmosphere around Malala and her family but also shows her as a girl—someone who enjoys playing with her friends, looks forward to holidays, is thinking about her future, etc.

She’s a devout Muslim, yet also devoted to the rights of girls and women, and she never feels that those two important parts of her life are at odds. Sometimes she explains why the Taliban leaders have certain positions (like their wish for women to remain at home, inside all the time), and why she disagrees with them.

I really want to listen to the book a second time. It might have been easier to read it as an e-book or physical copy. I had a hard time sometimes with keeping the names of places and characters straight. Having the print version would have made this easier for me I think, since so many names were unfamiliar to me.

I couldn’t help but be in awe of this young girl and her courage, though. I really enjoyed the story and it gave me a better understanding of what happened in Pakistan before and after Bin Laden was killed.

Looking back, I kind of wish I had read the young reader’s version of this book so I could recommend it, but this version would probably be okay for most middle and high school readers.

Content Notes

Recommended for Ages 12 up.

Representation
Malala and her family are Pakistan and Muslim.

Profanity/Crude Language Content
None.

Romance/Sexual Content
At one point Malala hears that some boys have crushes on her and are waiting for her outside her house. She tells them to go away. (Partly she’s concerned about getting in trouble if anyone suggests she was flirting with them, which she wasn’t.)

Spiritual Content
Malala and her family, her mom especially, pray verses from the Koran in times of distress and trouble. She discusses the difference between what the Koran says about the behavior of women versus what the Taliban demand in terms of rules about women.

Violent Content
Malala survives flooding and an earthquake. She describes hearing bombs exploding and gunfire. At one point, a man boards the van she’s riding in and shoots her in the head. He also shoots a friend of hers in the shoulder. A bullet grazes a third girl.

Drug Content
None.

21 Days to Happiness 3 Day Happiness Challenge and E-Learning Pre-Launch

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One of the books that seriously shook up my world (in a great way) was Ingrid Kelada’s 21 Days to Happiness which I reviewed last year. I love how simple and practical the concepts are and how the book contains things like apps and videos to use to help. The book itself feels very interactive, so I’m sure the new e-learning series will be even more engaging. I can’t wait to try it out!

Ingrid is joining me with a guest post as part of a 3 Day Happiness Challenge to give us all a bit of a happy boost as we head into the holidays.

Ingrid Kelada’s 3-Day Happiness Challenge Day 3: Make a List of Things You’re Thankful For

Have an Attitude of Gratitude

Welcome to day three of the Happiness Challenge! If you missed the earlier stops in our three-day challenge, you can still pop back to Day 1: Smiling for Happiness and Day 2: Go Outside to complete those challenges and get extra entries in our giveaway.

Today’s Happiness Challenge will help put things in perspective as we go into the holiday season. Your Happiness Challenge is to make a list of things you’re grateful for. It doesn’t have to be long. Try to write down three to five things you appreciate about your life right now.

Why does this work?

Focusing on the positive reminds us of the things that make us happy. We are safe. We are loved. We have lives filled with comforts and access to amazing experiences. When we remember those things, those positive thoughts dim the worries we might be feeling and help us reevaluate our lives. We get a boost of happiness just from noticing good things.

The truth is, we won’t be completely satisfied by external events or circumstances. To find happiness in life we must first be at peace internally. External events and circumstances can bring us happiness in the moment, but they do not have a lasting effect on our inner self. Life brings a mixture of good and bad circumstances to everyone. To rely on life’s experiences for our source of happiness would mean living life in a constant emotional roller coaster ride. Wouldn’t it be better to learn to have a steady feeling of contentment rather than be at the mercy of circumstances and be tossed from the high and low feelings like a ship in a storm?

That’s where gratitude comes in. The inner contentment that survives the roller coaster ride of life has its roots deep within our being. When we train ourselves to recognize the good things, to stop and be grateful, we are stopping the roller coaster, stepping off, and looking at our lives in a different way.

Simply taking a moment to be grateful boosts our mood and makes us feel happier. Try it now!

Participate in the Challenge!

The giveaway below offers you a chance to share your Happiness Challenge and celebrate the release of the  bestselling book 21 Days to Happiness as a new interactive e-learning experience.

3 winners will receive our 3 Days to Happiness E-Learning for free! That’s a 30$ value!

If you don’t win,  you’ll still have the option to get the 3-Day to happiness program at the crazy low-price of 9$ for a limited time! It will be available soon at www.KCCPositivePsychology.com

21 Days to Happiness: Increase your Happiness, Productivity and Energy – available in 4-formats: paperback, eBook, audiobook and online e-Learning program…something for everyone!

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Struggling to find work-life balance? Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed and frustrated or just want to increase your happiness, you can learn how in just 10 minutes a day!

For some of us, feeling busy or stressed has become the new normal. Others feel okay, but just want a boost to productivity, energy and motivation. Instead of hoping for happiness, what if happiness is something you DO, something you CHOOSE every day? The good news: it is and the solutions are simple. Psychologist and happiness expert Ingrid Kelada provides a step-by-step guide to help you increase your personal happiness and feel more motivated. You can learn how with simple 10-minute strategies. Each day of the 21-day journey focuses on one key area of your life, including:

  • Time: how to break the cycle of chaos and manage your time effectively.
  • Body Language: exploring the surprising links between body language and happiness
  • Relationships: how to make the most of the number one predictor of happiness.
  • Work: how to use your strengths and talents so that you are engaged and motivated.
  • Money: what you should spend your money on to feel most satisfied.

In this interactive approach, each “Day” features resources like apps to try, videos to watch for deeper understanding, space for journaling your observations, and tools to help you master these new habits in just a few minutes per day.

About 21 Days to Happiness Interactive E-Learning Program

Sometimes we need more than text on a page to make a message come alive. That’s what the 21 Days to Happiness E-Learning program is all about! The online learning program will make your happiness habits come alive in an easy, accessible way. Purchase the whole series or just a few modules and work through it at your own pace. Each module takes only minutes per day, giving you a chance to focus on a key component so you can add to your happiness toolbox. For more info and promotions check it out here: www.KCCPositivePsychology.com

Special introductory price for “3 Days to Happiness E-Learning Program” – the first three modules of 21 Days to Happiness Program – for only $9 through December 31. A 30$ Value. Christmas is the best time to work on your happiness or offer it as a gift.

About Ingrid Kelada, psychologist and happiness expert

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Ms. Ingrid Kelada is an experienced psychologist and happiness expert. Her goal is to inspire people and change their lives.

She is proud of her recent Amazon bestseller book 21 Days to Happiness. She is a speaker and has facilitated over 1000 workshops all over the world.

People find her to be pragmatic, inspiring and funny!

She has set up an online personality questionnaire store to help people identify their talents and interests and live their best life.

She lives in Montreal with her husband, son and dog.

With over 25 years experience, she offers her expertise and advice to a wide range of clients. She is bilingual and a member of the professional association of Psychologists of Quebec.

Catch up on the Other Happiness Challenges

11/19 – Happiness Challenge Day 1: Smiling with A Mama’s Corner of the World

11/20 – Happiness Challenge Day 2: Go Outside with Everyday Gyaan

11/21 – Happiness Challenge Day 3: Gratitude – The Story Sanctuary – you are here!

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