How to Lose Yourself Completely
Peter Bognanni
Balzer + Bray
Published June 2, 2026
About How to Lose Yourself Completely
An incredibly poignant story about a teen grappling with grief and anxiety who is sent to wilderness “adventure therapy,” where he meets a group of friends who will change his life forever. With its captivating voice and dry wit, this novel is perfect for fans of Jandy Nelson and John Green.
Ever since Sean’s death, Case’s anxiety has been spiraling. Sean wasn’t just his older brother—he was also Case’s best friend. The only person who really got him.
When his parents suggest “adventure therapy,” Case is desperate enough to agree. Maybe roughing it in the woods with a group of anxious strangers will help him find a way forward. After he boards the bus, he sees the one person he’s been trying to avoid: Diana. Sean’s girlfriend.
Once they set off, there is the expected cringey singing and forced sharing. But when their counselor mysteriously disappears, the trip suddenly turns into a journey of survival. This group of kids, with nothing in common but their prescriptions and lack of social skills, will have to band together to make it back home. In the process, they will change each other’s lives forever.
From award-winning author Peter Bognanni comes a profound, surprising, and hopeful novel about grief and love.
My Review
Most of this book appears in second-person point of view, using “you” pronouns, though it’s written from Case’s perspective. Once I got to the pronoun shift, it made so much sense why the first part of the book was written this way. I like the way that it connected to Case’s relationship with his brother and elements of their relationship.
The story’s premise is really interesting. The nature program is supposed to provide group therapy opportunities and immerse the campers in an outdoor adventure. The story doesn’t really focus on whether time spent in nature is a remedy for anxiety, but the characters do ask some interesting questions about it along the way.
One interesting thing for me while reading this book is that I sometimes felt at odds with Case’s interpretation of events. He idolizes his brother, both as part of his grief and as a younger sibling might look up to an older one. But in the descriptions of his brother’s behavior, I felt like there were a lot of clues that his brother didn’t always deserve Case’s adoration. This added a lot of tension to the story. I could feel the conflict between Case’s view of his brother and the true timeline of events building to a crescendo.
The wilderness adventure part of the book gets pretty intense, too, as the cover suggests, taking characters across dangerous rivers and through a raging forest fire. I can definitely see the comparison to John Green’s books. Readers looking for an intense story about grief and anxiety will get that, along with memorable characters and entertaining banter.
Content Notes
Recommended for Ages 14 up.
Profanity/Crude Language Content
One f-bomb. Other profanity used pretty infrequently.
Romance/Sexual Content
Kissing.
Spiritual Content
For a period of time, Sean embraced Buddhism.
Violent Content
References to a diving injury. One character’s risk-taking behavior increases over time. Descriptions of panic attacks and anxiety. Encounters with wildlife. Characters encounter a forest fire. Description of an accidental death.
Drug Content
Sean’s friends drink alcohol and smoke in his room. (Happens off-scene.) Case witnesses one friend leaving the house drunk. One character confesses that they have a drinking problem. One character steals others’ medication. One scene shows a character who has overdosed on medication. It’s unclear whether this was accidental or intentional.
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