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Review: Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

Daring Greatly
Brené Brown
Avery
Published September 11, 2012

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About Daring Greatly

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; . . . who at best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” —Theodore Roosevelt

Every day we experience the uncertainty, risks, and emotional exposure that define what it means to be vulnerable, or to dare greatly. Whether the arena is a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation, we must find the courage to walk into vulnerability and engage with our whole hearts.

In DARING GREATLY, Dr. Brown challenges everything we think we know about vulnerability. Based on twelve years of research, she argues that vulnerability is not weakness, but rather our clearest path to courage, engagement, and meaningful connection. The book that Dr. Brown’s many fans have been waiting for, DARING GREATLY will spark a new spirit of truth—and trust—in our organizations, families, schools, and communities.

Researcher and thought leader Dr. Brené Brown offers a powerful new vision that encourages us to dare greatly: to embrace vulnerability and imperfection, to live wholeheartedly, and to courageously engage in our lives.

My Review

I have this book as an audiobook and I’ve listened to it multiple times. Every single time, I feel like I rediscover gems or somehow notice new information that I’d overlooked before. Or things make sense in a fresh way because of whatever’s happening in my life at the moment I read a particular topic or chapter.

It’s a challenging read, I won’t lie. Like, it really makes me think about the ways I handle my own emotional discomfort and gives an opportunity to make some changes. There are a lot of personal stories, which both soften the blow that comes from feeling so exposed emotionally. It makes you feel like Brown is right there in the vulnerability trenches with you.

One of the biggest changes that’s come from reading this book is in the way my husband and I relate to each other. I realized that when I feel vulnerable, I tend to counterattack. I will pick a fight with him or escalate a fight we’re already having. Now, instead, I try to create a little space in my head. I recognize that I’m feeling scared or hurt or whatever it is and try to process that rather than running from it into feeling angry.

I’m definitely a work in progress. Haha. But I feel like I’ve gotten a lot of really good stuff from this book. I wish there was a version specifically for teens addressing some issues specific to that time of life. I think teens can still read and benefit from the book, so I recommend it anyway.

If you haven’t seen Brené Brown’s TED Talk, that’s a great place to start in order to get more of a feel for what DARING GREATLY is about. Her talk is kind of a dip-your-toes-in look at what she covers in much greater depth in the book. If you watch that and are curious or intrigued, definitely pick up DARING GREATLY.

Content Notes

Recommended for Ages 14 up.

Representation
Relates stories and data based on a broad range of research.

Profanity/Crude Language Content
Strong profanity used infrequently.

Romance/Sexual Content
Some brief mentions of sex from the perspective of the way that asking for sex or participating in it means experiencing vulnerability.

Spiritual Content
Mentions going to church.

Violent Content
Vague mentions of abuse situations.

Drug Content
Mentions of drinking alcohol and smoking as a poor coping strategy for vulnerability. She also discusses the connection between shame and addiction.

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Review and Blog Tour: Shame Off You by Denise Pass

Shame Off You: From Hiding to Healing
Denise Pass
Abingdon Press
Published August 21, 2018

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About Shame Off You: From Hiding to Healing

Shame is an assault on the core of who we are. It assassinates our character, minimizes our worth, and dashes our hope. Like Adam and Eve, we often hide shame, but hiding never heals it. Left unattended, shame can develop into a crippling reality that paralyzes us. Like an infectious disease, shame impacts everyone . . . but not all shame is bad. Shame can either be an oppressive and powerful tool of worldly condemnation or a source of conviction that God uses to bring his people back to himself. Having the discernment to know the difference and recognize shame in its many forms can change the course of one’s life.

In a transparently honest style, Pass shares of her experience dealing with shame after learning that her former husband was a sexual offender. Having lived through the aftermath, she leads you into God’s Word where you will see for yourself that God is bigger than your pain, shame, mistakes, and limitations.

Shame Off You shares how freedom can be found in choosing to break the cycle of shame by learning from the past, developing healthy thinking patterns, silencing lies, and overcoming the traps of vanity and other people’s opinions.

My Review

This book gave me so many things to think about. It really called into focus the way I react to certain things and has helped me start to break down why I react that way and how to respond differently or break the cycle of shame.

The author is pretty transparent about some difficult things she has been through, and that makes so much of what she says accessible and real because you know she’s been through those big emotions herself. She’s also really funny. I liked that sometimes even when talking about difficult things, she’d say them in a funny way to lighten things up.

SHAME OFF YOU is a very spiritual book. I don’t think you could read the book and enjoy it without embracing her spiritual point-of-view. It’s really meant to guide people within Christian faith toward releasing shame and breaking the cycle of shaming others.

I’m also not sure how accessible the book would be to teen readers. The writing is a little bit dense, but the concepts really apply to any age, and the topic is a great one for teen readers. I wonder if the author would consider doing a youth edition at some point.

On the whole, I’m so glad I read SHAME OFF YOU. I want to go back and highlight some passages that I want to remember and be able to revisit later. I think it will be a big help to me as I continue to think about way shame impacts me and others in my life.

Content Notes

Recommended for Ages 14 up.

Representation
None.

Profanity/Crude Language Content
None.

Romance/Sexual Content
The author briefly discusses discovering that her husband sexually abused their child. No explicit details given.

Spiritual Content
This is in every way a Christian book. Quotes from scriptures, prayers and devotionals open and close each chapter.

Violent Content
None.

Drug Content
None.

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Review: 21 Days to Happiness by Ingrid Kelada

21 Days to Happiness
Ingrid Kelada
Wellness Ink Publishing
Published on September 25, 2017

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About 21 Days to Happiness
Feeling busy, stressed or disappointed has become the “new normal”. The truth is it doesn’t have to be that way, and the solutions are simple.

Instead of hoping for happiness, what if happiness is something you DO, something you CHOOSE every day? The good news: it is.

Psychologist and happiness expert Ingrid Kelada provides a step-by-step guide to help you increase your personal happiness and feel more motivated. You can learn how with simple 10-minute strategies. Each day of the 21 day journey focuses on one key area of your life, including:

• Time: how to break the cycle of chaos and manage your time effectively.
• Body Language: exploring the surprising links between body language and happiness.
• Relationships: how to make the most of the number one predictor of happiness.
• Work: how to use your strengths and talents so you are engaged and motivated.
Happiness is a choice. A daily decision to choose happy can be easy, fun and rewarding. With this book, in just a few minutes per day, you can practice one new happiness habit and jot down your notes in the journal section.

My Review
I decided to read this book after working with the author—who is genuinely enthusiastic and upbeat and fun—to help her prepare for her book launch. As I skimmed some of the pages and chapters to help put together some promotional information, I found myself captivated by the simple, practical steps and supporting research. I couldn’t help wanting to read more.

Generally I think of myself as a pretty happy person, so I probably wouldn’t have thought to pick this book up off of a shelf. Reading it validated some of the practices I already use that bring me joy and keep me energized and focused. It also gave me new strategies for areas of my life where I’ve been looking for better strategies.

For instance, last fall, my daughter’s school day began at 8am. While this made for early mornings (I’m not a morning person!), it also gave me a long morning for work. Once I adjusted to that routine, I was able to get a lot done. This year, though, she’s at a new school, and doesn’t begin her day until 9:30am.

I love getting to sleep in a bit later, but I’ve been frustrated by the short mornings and have been really struggling to find a schedule where I can get as much done as I used to. Day 15 on taking a break in 21 Days to Happiness suggests some work and break routines for better productivity in the morning and afternoon that I’m super excited to try. I think they’ll work really well for the kinds of tasks I do.

Even if you’re not struggling with being unhappy or unsatisfied, I think this is a great book to read. All of us have bad habits or struggles that new strategies and ideas can help us improve. I especially loved the resources sections at the end of each chapter where you can find links to videos with more information on a topic or apps for things like guided meditation. The author’s website also includes a quick happiness quiz, which you can fill out and see where you’re happiest and which areas need some attention.

Ingrid Kelada’s book makes it so easy to succeed. It’s jam-packed with practical tips and supporting research all explained in a conversational tone that makes you feel like she’s right there with you. This is one book I’ll be keeping on hand and referring back to in the future.

Recommended for Ages 13 up.

Cultural Elements
None.

Profanity/Crude Language Content
There’s one instance of profanity that’s got an asterisk blocking part of the word. It’s a quote from a client, and is crude to make a point.

Romance/Sexual Content
A couple of places refer to sex very briefly. In one, the author hints that bedtime isn’t the best time for such a stimulating activity. In another, she refers to words from a palliative care nurse who explains that most people facing the end of life don’t talk about things like sex or bungee jumping.

Spiritual Content
More than one chapter talks about incorporating meditation as part of a daily routine. Quotes in the book feature authors like Mother Therese and Buddha.

Violent Content
None.

Drug Content
The author openly talks about drinking a glass of wine or champagne as a treat or part of a date or relaxing time.

Note: I received a free copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.