The Survivor Wants to Die at the End (They Both Die at the End #3)
Adam Silvera
Quill Tree Books
Published May 6, 2025
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About The Survivor Wants to Die at the End
In this third book of the USA Today and #1 New York Times mega-bestselling They Both Die at the End series, two strangers—each with their own complicated relationship to Death-Cast—help each other learn to live.
Paz Dario stays up every night, waiting for the Death-Cast call that would mean he doesn’t have to keep faking his way through this lonely life. After a devastating day, Paz decides he’s done waiting around for Death-Cast. If they say he’s not dying, he’ll just have to prove them wrong. But right before Paz can die, a boy saves his life.
Alano Rosa is heir to the Death-Cast empire that encourages everyone to live their best lives, but he doesn’t feel in control of his own existence thanks to his father. And with a violent organization called the Death Guard threatening Alano, his End Day might be closer than he thinks. It’s time to live.
Fate brings Paz and Alano together, but it’s now up to the boys to survive the tragic trials ahead so no one dies at the end.
This book contains themes that some readers may find difficult.
This Isn’t an Easy Book (My Review Part 1)
This is a very long book. I can’t remember the last time I read a contemporary novel that was over 700 pages. I think the fanbase for the series will probably read this book anyway. (They have probably already read it by now, actually.) I went into this book kind of surprised that I wasn’t hearing more buzz about it from the reviewers I follow. It’s possible I’ve just missed the reviews. After reading the book, I can definitely say it’s a hard one to talk about, partly because it’s a long book, but also because of the representation of mental illness that’s often stigmatized.
I don’t have Borderline Personality Disorder myself, but someone in my life does, so it was almost eerie at times the way that the book echoed some of the things I’ve witnessed. I don’t feel qualified to judge whether it’s great representation, but Paz’s experiences definitely resonated with me.
That said, Paz spends the majority of the book in a really difficult place emotionally. He’s not so much struggling to stay alive as struggling to come up with a foolproof plan to exit life. It can be really hard to follow a character as intense as Paz, perhaps especially if you’ve been through similar experiences or have been a support person for someone who has.
I was also leery of the idea that Alano could keep Paz safe. It can be a huge adrenaline spike to be the person someone turns to for stability. In my experience, that’s a recipe for frustration and burnout, though. So while I spent every chapter rooting for Paz’s survival, I also held my breath hoping that the narrative would call out the parts of the relationship that weren’t healthy.
Things That Will Stick with Me (My Review Part 2)
Ultimately the story does show some give and take in Paz and Alano’s relationship. That back and forth leaning on one another also gives each of them opportunity for growth and to demonstrate the kind of support they’ve wanted in their own lives. I like that the book was careful to show that.
I loved the scenes that showed Paz’s gift for acting and his knowledge of the craft. There are a couple scenes where he’s practicing getting into character or talking about his process, and I loved seeing that. It also highlights that there’s so much more to him than mental illness and the sensationalized moments in his life.
Alano is a really interesting character as well. We learn some things about him late in the book that caused me to think back and reevaluate some of the things I’d thought earlier on in the story. The last scene ends with a new piece of information that, honestly, opens a whole new can of worms to be explored (I hope) in the fourth book in the series, No One Knows Who Dies at the End, which should come out in 2026.
Conclusion
This book is definitely not for everyone, and I think the author takes great care to let readers know what to expect in his author’s note at the front of the book. Be sure to read that before diving into this one.
I’m glad I read this book, though it was a hard read for me. I’m in awe of Silvera for his ability to sustain a story about someone who wants to die– that’s no easy feat. I love how Alano and Paz reframe their day together as a “Begin Day” rather than an “End Day.”
Content Notes
Recommended for Ages 16 up.
Profanity/Crude Language Content
Strong profanity used fairly frequently.
Romance/Sexual Content
Kissing. References to sex.
Spiritual Content
Spoilers (Select the following text to reveal):
One character sees the ghosts of the dead, and they talk to him.
Violent Content
Suicidal ideation. Vivid descriptions of self-harm and a desire to self-harm. Someone hears a gunshot that indicates a person has ended their life. Multiple descriptions of suicide attempts. Someone stabs another person. A gunman bursts into a store, threatening the shoppers and shouting a political message. There’s another spoiler in the paragraph below. (Select the text to reveal.)
Neither of the main characters die by suicide in the book.
Drug Content
One character is an alcoholic. In more than one scene, he feels tempted to drink alcohol. In one scene, a character notes the smell of alcohol on his breath. One suicide attempt involves drinking alcohol.
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